Match

 I've been asked to ask a friend if he'd like to date someone specific. Even trying to type that concisely and clearly was difficult, never mind actually being in the middle of things.

This weekend I tried to intro a girl I know to a guy I'd just met and liked, but failed to figure out how to do it. I got them within 2 meters of each other but the girl felt too much pressure because I'd already talked her up.

I don't really know how the intros and dating scene works. It's also been something that I've avoided. I don't like the people who love speaking about the love lives of others and gossiping and knowing who's dating who and who just broke up.

I also don't want to be responsible if things don't work out. As I write this I realize again I am looking to avoid responsibility. I wonder why I am so avoidant of it and where else this avoidance plays out in my life.

I also have some internal rating system in my head, and feel uneasy to break that system, to match an 8 with a 6. Both for fear of insulting the 8, or lowering what they could have gotten in the end if things do work out.

It's easy for VCs to say a startup won't work and be right because 90% of startups don't work. I think a similar stat is true for dating (if 'working' is getting married and spending their lives together). So why would I set up something that is bound to fail (or has 90%+ chance of not working out). 

I wonder if any of this is actually real. Would someone be upset with me if I set them up with someone that hurt them? Is a small chance of helping lifetime of happiness a worthy risk? Should I drive and encourage them to meet or just field the idea? Do single people take it personally, as if there is something wrong with them, if I don't try to set them up?